You Don’t Find a Fulfilling Life — You Design It
Hi, it’s Tracey here — co-founder of Santamita.
Have you ever noticed how much energy we pour into designing our homes, our careers, our relationships… and yet, how rarely we stop to design our lives?
For so many years, I was focused on the next milestone — the next accomplishment, the next chapter that was supposed to make everything feel complete. But one day, I realized I’d reached many of those traditional goals… and still, something was missing.
It wasn’t that I was unhappy — it was that I had outgrown my old definitions of success.
When the Dream Changes
I remember reading a book that invited me to imagine my ideal life. “What does your perfect home look like?” it asked. “What’s your dream job? Your ideal day?”
And I sat there… blank.
Nothing came to me. I couldn’t understand why. Then it dawned on me — I had already built the life I once dreamed of. But, when I checked in with my soul, those old dreams didn’t light me up anymore.
The visioning process had shifted. It wasn’t about what I wanted to have — it was about who I wanted to be.
A Different Kind of Vision
It was no longer about the house, the car, or the career title. It became about the feeling of my days.
How did I want to feel when I woke up in the morning?
What kind of energy did I want to move through?
What did I want my presence to create around me?
When I got honest with myself, my “ideal day” wasn’t a picture — it was a texture.
Peaceful mornings. Meaningful connections. Creative flow. Contribution without exhaustion. Freedom without emptiness. Love that felt alive and mutual.
That was my new vision.
Maybe the Dream Has Become Simpler
Maybe you’ve felt this too. Maybe you’ve accomplished so much — but the next dream feels quieter, simpler, harder to name.
Perhaps your soul isn’t asking you to build more, but to unbecome — to release what no longer matters so you can make room for what truly does.
For many of us, the new dream isn’t another mountain to climb… it’s a meadow to rest in.
So instead of asking yourself “What does my dream life look like?”
Try asking:
“What feels most true and alive in me right now?
If I weren’t trying to create the next big thing, what would I love to experience more of in my ordinary days?”
Even one simple word like ease, beauty, belonging, or purpose without pressure can be the seed of your next vision.
“The new dream isn’t another mountain to climb… it’s a meadow to rest in.”
The Sacred In-Between
There’s a tender space between your old dream and your new one — we call it the sacred in-between.
It’s that moment after a long climb when you finally reach the ridge, look around, and realize: I’ve done so much… but now that the view has changed, where do I go from here?
It’s not a lack of imagination. It’s your soul editing, not expanding.
You’re releasing what’s no longer true so something deeper — something quieter and more essential — can take shape.
You’re Between Mountains
If this is where you find yourself, know this: you’re not lost. You’re in transition.
And transitions — especially for those of us who’ve achieved, built, and carried so much — can feel like restlessness. But it’s not that you don’t have a dream anymore; it’s that your next dream is still forming.
This time, it’s being shaped by who you’re becoming, not what you’re building.
You’re no longer designing a life around achievement — you’re designing a life around belonging: to yourself, to peace, to purpose.
And that’s exactly what A Life I Designed is all about.
A Life I Designed: A Journey Back to Yourself
We’ve created a guided experience that helps you realign your life from the inside out.
It’s called A Life I Designed — an 8-week journey of reflection, release, and re-envisioning the way you want to live.
This program is for anyone who’s ready to pause, recalibrate, and begin living with more clarity, purpose, and ease.
Enrollment opens in early 2026, but we’ve opened a waitlist for early access and exclusive launch bonuses.
Because your next chapter isn’t something you stumble into. It’s something you design.
Here’s to designing what’s next,
Tracey
Co-Founder, Santamita
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